At present is to apply for a job of this year’s graduates period, have media coverage, can go up in talent invite applications for a job, a lot of undergraduates that to apply for a job comes to before are accompany by the parent, psychological expert points out, this is undergraduate psychology ablactations period prolate expression, go against their life henceforth and job.

Spot of invite applications for a job is active ” the parent accompanies a group “

To apply for a job applies for the first pace that is society of trend of this year’s graduates, however this one pace of a lot of undergraduates is stridden not dependably. As a result of parents excessive and favorite, their psychology ablactations period lengthen, apply for a job to also have depend on psychology, return so that have parental for company.

Can go up in invite applications for a job of not long ago, the reporter saw active in spot of invite applications for a job ” the parent accompanies a group ” , on congested assembly room, went up the hand that the parents of age is pulling the child moves back and forth between units of each invite applications for a job.

“We want the child to learned to go well only, other issues do not want to let him too worry about, we can help those who do be done more as far as possible a few. ” a parent says.

“Basically be right the child is not at ease, be afraid that he is deceived, still can raise some of proposal to him additionally. ” another parent says.

“Also do not want to let parents follow originally, but myself has really some feel do not wear brains. ” graduate Ding Lan says, “Follow without parents, feel not dependable. Feel not dependable..

Psychological expert: It is difficult that psychology does not ablactation get used to a society

“The undergraduate accompanies to apply for a job by the parent, it is dependence crosses strong, psychology to ablactation period prolate expression, although this is not psychological disease, but go against them so grow. ” advisory Shi Yangyong of psychology of level of state of hospital of the 8th people exceeds Zhengzhou city say.

The expert points out, in growing process of the person, have twice ablactation period, namely physiology ablactations period ablactation with psychology period. Physiology ablactations period in the child one year old is controlled, this is not difficult. The 2nd is psychology ablactations period, psychology ablactations period be in commonly adolescence, adolescent child is gone against instead psychology is very strong, own psychology is stronger also, they can break away from parental control actively, the requirement has his space, want parents to had held to spend only at this moment, do not let the child be infected with undesirable habit to be able to make the child successful spend psychology to ablactation period. But the independent consciousness that a lot of parents rear the child carelessly when child adolescence now, do not let the child have absolute idea, so that the child lies all the time below parental shelter, till move toward a society.

“Dependence the person that strong, psychology cannot ablactation, hard good society gets used to ability, they bear setback ability, face pressure capacity very weak. Have a bit in the life as meaning, be opposite possibly oneself, lose confidence to the life, abandonment perhaps, or blame everyone and everything but not oneself, if suffer setback, pressure for a long time to wait, cannot adjust again, may produce a series of psychology problems such as depressed, be agitated, angst so. ” Yang Yong exceeds say.

Solving child psychology to ablactation period on prolate problem, need student and parent two respects try hard, it is the parent should let go on one hand, make the child independent assume harships, want to make them independent face difficulty, the parent would rather help the child face after the child suffers a setback, also do not let child classics bilk bilk. As the undergraduate, should realise oneself already crossed psychology to ablactation period, had been adult, should learn how straight face difficulty and setback. In the meantime, if be in,encounter a setback hard when untangle, also can seek advice from personnel to seek a help to the parent, friend or psychology.

Manpower resource expert: The student with psychological strong dependence is undesirable

“Once a height follows father and mother to be applied for together for 180 centimeters schoolboy, although his itself condition is pretty good, but unit of choose and employ persons thinks, connecting to apply for a job to want parents to accompany is independent ability apparently not strong, do not have employ then him. ” Forster seeks advice from Zhengzhou expert of resource of company labor power says.

Different company and the quality requirement of the person that correspondence hires different position are different, but talent level can include the choose of most enterprise enterprise, communication skill, judgement ponders over ability, fight press ability to wait, to applicant, what the enterprise values more is development latent capacity, include to provide for oneself ability.

Generally speaking, interview basically watchs applicant’s show, although parents is accompanied,won’t become fall the whole reason that hire, but still can leave bad impression to unit of invite applications for a job. The student mentally that most enterprise can think to be applied for by parental for company is not quite mature, dependence is too strong, lack substantive work capacity.

The mood of parental care children is understandable, but affected the child because of improper behavior to the loss outweights the gain. So, parents should believe the child’s ability, let him child to apply for a job, although failure also can accumulate experience. If parents is determined to accompany, can give priority to in order to look in the spot, do not pass course of much intervening interview.